I am in that weird space of having a million things to write about and yet nothing comes up for me. My thoughts are scattered here there and everywhere. The “problem” is that more and more people are reading my blog and I get in my head about it. Am I oversharing? Will my readers like this? The truth that I need to remember is that this blog is for me. It’s a great tool to look back and see how things are unfolding for me. So here I go.
Yesterday was such a weird day for me emotionally. I joked about everyone crying in yoga, and maybe they needed that, but it was me who I was really talking about. I was on the verge of tears all day. But they didn’t come. I have written about repressed memories coming up for me in the past. And I processed those the best way I could. I really figured that was it and I was done with that. Life is great. Things are flowing my way effortlessly and easily. I AM connected and divinely guided. So when more shit from my past pops up, it knocks the wind out of me. Last week I sat on my therapist’s couch with my journal of “all the amazing things” that are going on in my life. The amazing things are always the things I want to talk about. When our time was almost up, I blurted out “want to do the therapy now?” And of course she did, because that’s her job. I told her that I have had more memories of childhood sexual abuse surfacing. When she asked me if I could talk about it, I just looked at her and said nothing. We both chuckled a little and she told me that “was an invitation.” My response to her was that I obviously couldn’t talk about it. Because nothing was coming out. So weird because I do trust this woman so much. I have spent some time on this and perhaps it’s the office and the couch that get me. Like “white coat syndrome.” Maybe I should ask her to sit on the floor with me. I bet she would. She’s cool like that. Since I wouldn’t or couldn’t talk about the memories with her, she offered up some suggestions as to what I could do to move through it. Dance it out, write it out, yoga it out. The things she knows I am comfortable with. The first time, back in the spring, when she suggested “dance it out” I thought she was nuts. And now, well, we all know how that ended. What I was looking for was a definitive answer about why this is happening again and when will it end. The why is simple. She’s explained it before, but she explained it again. Because I am strong and healthy and have all the support in the world. And because I have everything I need to look at these things when they come up and then let them go. The when will it end isn’t as simple. I read everything I could find about this subject, but there are no concrete answers. Unfortunately we live in a world where this is fairly common. I reached out to a friend who I am able to be completely open with and talked to her about it. She has her own experience with this exact thing. Which is what I needed more than anything. Someone who has been where I am. Someone with personal experience. This is what I gathered from our conversation. Something in my present moment experience triggered these memories. They are there to teach me something. And I guess as the healthy adult that I am, it’s not really a big deal. But, it feels like a big deal to me when it happens. Talking to my friend helped more than anything. She told me there really is no specific end date. No magic time. Healing is a lifetime process. More than anything, just knowing that I am not alone in this experience was helpful. The specifics aren’t important and I don’t need to share with everyone or maybe even anyone. My plan is simply to honor the path that got me to where I am today. I keep telling myself to write it down and burn it. A ritual. I love ritual. Not that I have done it yet, but it’s coming. The gift in this is that it never crosses my mind to hide from it. It never crosses my mind to numb myself. What I have done is take 1,000 baths. Maybe I am subconsciously trying to crawl back into the womb. Whatever. It feels good and it soothes me. The bathtub is where I spent all of my free time when I first got sober. It’s still a go to when I am emotionally triggered. And honestly, I have been super sensitive lately. OR, maybe I AM super sensitive and I have been allowing myself to experience that. I don’t know. What I do know is that I am human. A human with ALL THE FEELS who doesn’t have everything figured out and probably never will. The good news is that I am surrounded by healers and sensitive souls who will hold my hand when I need that. The reality is that I really do have everything I need already available to me and I can handle whatever comes my way. So I lean in to the uncomfortable until it passes because I know for sure and certain that joy is waiting for me on the other side. I AM a warrior.